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| Disagreements must exist |
Have you ever been in a discussion, then all of a sudden everyone went wild? Then a simple matter becomes a shouting contest, because nobody is willing to listen to the other. Well, it is a problem in most cases, which has effectively led to many trivial matters being left unresolved, and bad blood brewed between the belligerent parties.
Sometimes a 'nod in disagreement' placates an acrimonious setup It leaves the forum confused, whether you agreed or did not. The moment someone feels you agree with them, only then can they listen to you, wanting to ascertain which part of their assertion you agreed with. If you insist on arguing your position, they will reiterate, thinking you are not getting the point, and will try harder to make you see it.
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This now calls for wisdom. Act as though you understand. Agree 'to some extent.' Then make your point. A good argument is not a competition of the most eloquent or loudest in voice, but an exchange of ideas.
God, in his wisdom, gave us two ears but one mouth. You are only allowed to speak one word with every two words you listen to.
